Recently I explained to someone that I was upset because someone referred to me as “sexy Latina! Sexy Latina! Sexy Latina!” as if they were talking to a small child or one of those dogs that fits in your purse. I felt like a rattle or dog bone was being shaken and shoved in my face at the time. This wasn’t the first time I’d been subject to stereotypes about Latinas. At one dentist appointment, my Jewish doctor noted that I was going to be a “really hot Dominican Jewish Rebbetzin (rabbi’s wife).” I smiled back rather painfully at the comment. If you don’t understand why this was inappropriate, stop reading the post and go read something else (preferably about women’s issues or feminism or why even positive stereotypes are a problem in general).
When I’ve complained about being objectified as a “sexy Latina” stereotype, inevitably, a white Ashkenazi Jewish girlfriend has remarked that she wishes she was thought of as a “sexy Jewish girl” and objectified in the same way. I explained that this was probably because Jewish girls are all too often thought of as high-maintenance, loud, grating, ballsy and big-nosed and every thing but sexy. Rarely do you hear Jewish girls being referred to as sex kittens in the way us “fiery” and “lusty” Latinas often are. Seriously, what is wrong with the world, what has happened to feminism, when Jewish women have to start praying they’ll be objectified and taken less seriously than they already are? Eek!
I literally get sick every time I read yet another article by a Jewish man explaining why he doesn’t date Jewish women. A long list of stereotypes usually ensues that only clarifies how scarred said Jewish male is over his relationship with his mother or his sister or some Jewish woman that done him wrong. The fact that Jewish women, like Latina women, come in all shapes, sizes, colors, cultural backgrounds and personality types is apparently lost on these men. Yes, even Jewish men can be self-loathing anti-Semites when it comes to their ideas about Jewish women.
Jewess Maya Escobar pokes fun at Latina and Jewish stereotypes:
Jewish American Princess:
Orthodox Jewish Woman:
Latina Role Model/Sex Vixen:
Hebrew Mamita Vanessa Hidary responds to being told “You don’t look Jewish” as a compliment: